i'm friends with a/have a partner that's "so and so" so i can say whatever i want about them

i have a (insert oppressed group) friend so i can talk as much shit about (insert same oppressed group) people as i want.

response:
intimate relationships/friendships are not mutually exclusive to discrimination: racism/sexism/homophobia/classism; they offer no insurance against any discrimination. in fact there may be a tendency to "excuse" that factor from acknowledgement and take that person as an exception; to declare them more human in spite of the dehumanization towards the rest of their group. another response could be the objectification of a person based upon their identity; to take (their 'rightful') ownership of said person due to their own superiority within the matrix of domination.

this isn't to say that relationships and friendships with others are wrong and/or cannot be forged. however if they are forged on bad faith: as a means to escape ones reality (to subjugate or be subjugated) or taking an ahistorical perspective towards past oppression, then such a relationship is healthy to neither party. we cannot ignore how our present has been forged by past oppression, nor can we ignore the social contexts which we live in.